Is your big why compelling enough? Walt Disney said words to the effect of “If you can dream it, you can do it” and these are very very powerful words. The mind does not know the difference between imagination and reality. Don’t believe me? Think about a day-dream, or when you have completed a meditation and come back into the room. Did it feel almost real? This is why is it important that your big why is compelling enough – to tell your brain what is, before it becomes a reality.
Back to my original question “Is your big why compelling enough?” I am going to use “big why”, but you could replace it with vision, goal, dream – they all lead to the same – you big why for doing what you do. Your reason for getting up in the morning; choosing to work instead of watching TV. Or do you find yourself trying to grow your business in the last hour of the day, when all you want to do is crash out on the sofa? Because you have spent most of the day running round after others? Helping them out?
We do not have to live with what life has dealt us. It is within our power to change things, to achieve great things!!!!
There are several distinct areas that I want to share with you about a compelling big why, although we might digress along the way, I do want to talk with you about
- Vision Boards
- How to make your vision really compelling
- Plan to achieve your big why
- Why it is important to celebrate your big why, each step of the way.
Let me begin by asking who has a traditional vision board? You know. The one with a posh car, a 5* holiday, luxury spa day, maybe a posh watch or jewellery – that sort of thing. I used to create one every year and it would be pinned to the side of my fridge for the whole year. But by mid-February it had just became part of the décor and I never really took any notice of it. Occasionally I would think – “Yes I must invite the family for dinner”, prompted by one of the pictures I was looking at as I was on the phone, but that was about it. It never really inspired me, for all my commitment when I created it.
I never really got behind the reason for vision boards. Although I did enjoy the creativity of making one. It reminded me of school days with lots of paper and scissors and glue, bits of magazine stuck to the carpet. You remember?
Then, a few years ago, I got introduced to Energy Vision Boards. Boy did that open my eyes and now I use this technique to create one every 6 months. In fact several of my friends love this technique so much we all get together and spend the day laughing and chatting and creating our energy vision boards. There’s piles of magazines and scissors, glue and stickers all over my kitchen table. It takes us nearly 20 minutes to clear the table so we can have lunch. Then we have the joy of starting all over again. It is a fabulous bonding time and all achieved whilst we are in flow.
Getting back to Walt Disney’s “If you can dream it, you can do it”. Let me ask you – what is it that you really want to achieve? Does it encompass everything you do? Is it your guiding light for all your decisions? Does it help you prioritise your day? If the answer is “no” then possibly your vision is not compelling enough.
“Hhhhmmmmm Stephanie”, I hear you say, “what do you mean by compelling? It’s something I want so that’s it isn’t it?”
Well no. Not really. Just wanting it is not enough. It needs to be all encompassing.
Let me share two extremes with you that will hopefully explain …..
Many years ago when I was married I found out that my husband was having an affair and that it had been going on for some time. The two of us had gone on holiday to have some quality time together and try to sort things out between us. During this holiday I read a self-help book, by Tony Robbins, which asked you to do various exercises.
So this particular day, whilst laying on the sunbed, I followed the instructions.
In brief the exercise was – think of a situation now make it bigger, brighter, noisier, louder, more colourful – look around you and see what is going on. Does that make you feel better?
I can assure you, imagining them cuddling, whilst doing this exercise was not good for my constitution in any way shape or form. If anything it made me more furious! The power of the mind you see?
Fortunately I persevered with the book and moved onto the next exercise.
Which, in brief was – think of a situation now make is smaller, duller, quieter, squeakier, black and white, tinier – look around you and see what is going on. Does that make you feel better?
Oh yes, it made me feel far far better, especially as I walked away and happened to step on the miniature squeak that I saw in my minds eye!!!
In actual fact this particular exercise save my marriage for a further 8 years, but I digress, yet again.
My point for telling you these 2 examples is to explain what I mean by compelling. Is your vision compelling enough?
During my many adventures through life I went to an Imax Theatre at one point. I don’t know if that was just the name, or if it is a recognised name for a particular cinema. However. The screen was absolutely massive and you also sat very very close to the screen too. It filled your whole vision. It almost felt like you were sitting on the head of the person in front of you, quite a strange sensation. Then when the film started I have never experienced anything like it before. Because the screen was so big and the picture so colourful and the sound so loud I actually felt like I was in the helicopter swooping over the tops of all the trees, weaving in and around the mountain sides! It was a phenomenal experience.
Does your big why play like a movie in your head? Is it loud? Bright? Colourful? Does it fill your whole vision? Do you actually feel like you are in the picture yourself? Can you see it, hear it, taste it, touch it, smell it? Is it that all encompassing that you forget it is not real at the moment?
Are you engaging every single one of your senses into your vision? Recall I said earlier the brain does not know the difference between imagination and reality? Well this is why. Being able to live in your vision, your brain will believe it and start recognising things to show you are achieving it. And the more you recognise synchronicities the more you will notice.
Having your vision so compelling and all encompassing will also influence the decisions you make, even simple ones like “shall I work on my social media content? Or shall I binge watch TV?” If your vision is deep seated within your psyche it will help you stay focused and on track.
Another way of making your vision really compelling is to talk about it with as many people as possible. Share it wide and far, with friends and family. Enjoy having it as part of the conversation when you see them. It helps to keep your big why at the forefront of your mind. You won’t want to turn around and say “oh, no, I’ve decided not to do that anymore!” you will want to share how much progress you have been making, what you have been up to, what is planned, what opportunities have come your way.
The action step
Another thing I want to share about “Is your big why compelling enough?” – it is not enough just to have a vision.
Paul McKenna says “The Universe puts one more step in between you thinking of what you want and actually getting it – the action step”.
It does not matter how big your dream is, as long as you take aligned action it will happen.
How to take aligned action? Look at your vision and note when it is going to be fulfilled. For example 5 years.
Split your vision into smaller steps to achieve during years 1 2 3 4 and 5 to fulfil your vision in 5 years-time. Now you have a 5 year plan. You may have goals for number of clients, how much clients pay, the type of clients you are attracting, the amount of turnover, the number of programmes, if you have a team of support, how many are in the team. There are all sorts of things you may want to look at for different aspects of your business. Keep it simple though.
Look at the first year and split that smaller goal across 12 months of actions. One action per month as a rough guide. Now you know what to achieve in each month of the year, to realise that first yearly goal.
If you wish you can even split the months into steps to take each week, even down to each day.
The time closest to you will have more detail than 5 years hence, however you can see the start of how you are going to realise your big why.
Then as time marches on and you achieve the first week, first month, first year, you repeat this exercise for year 2. Before you know it you will be approaching year 5 and your big why will be a reality. And it is the most fantastic feeling in the world.
My final piece of advice is, make sure you celebrate every step of the way. It is very very easy indeed to stay fully focused on the goal and forget just how far you have come. So as you are making your weekly, monthly, quarterly plan make sure you plan in some celebrations too. Probably linked to particular milestones, but it is essential you celebrate! Acknowledging what you have achieved will support your motivation to keep going to achieve your compelling vision. So make sure you celebrate each and every success as you go through.
If you have any questions please drop an email to me at firstname.lastname@example.org
With much love and thanks. Chat with you soon.